Anyone can be cool, but awesome takes practice!
Oh, you thought people were born awesome?
The only difference between those that are awesome and those that are not is one thing:
Wait, what? How did I go from something as jovial as awesome to something as austere as willpower?
Well it turns out, willpower isn’t something that should be considered gloomy and serious. Willpower is the secret to getting everything you have ever wanted in life.
Willpower is the ability to do the things you don’t want to do when you don’t want to do them.
Let me digress for a moment.
I have had a weekly newsletter for about a year and a half. When you sign up for it you automatically receive a welcome email and in it I ask you, “what is your greatest issue pertaining to being a homemaker“.
I have received thousands of responses and I would say the vast majority of problems most women face in their day to day life can be whittled down to one thing:
For example, many of you discussed having to fight your urges to procrastinate.
Others spoke about how busy their lives were and how they felt exhausted at the end of the day.
Still others mentioned time issues, money issues, and not being able to lose weight.
All of those are actually problems that stem from a lack of willpower and self discipline!
Now I am not saying my readers are lazy, or uneducated, or just want to sit on the couch and eat bon-bons! On the contrary! So many of you are up to your ears in busy that you can barely eat a proper lunch!
But sometimes we confuse busy with self discipline, or we blow out our willpower by doing things we don’t want to do for other people, and then when it is time to concentrate on ourselves we just don’t have the energy.
As someone who has been growing and strengthening her willpower for years, I decided to write a book about it and teach you how you can both build and enhance your own self discipline!
My Willpower History
Now what do I know about willpower?
Actually, quite a bit.
When I was a teenager I was my parent’s worst nightmare. I was super rebellious, never did my homework and all I wanted to do was be free to make my own decisions.
Somehow I managed to get accepted into Boston University. But the first year I was there I almost flunked out of school. Why? Because I was so used to procrastinating my homework and just doing the bare minimum of work to get through a class. My professors were having none of it and they let me know that if I didn’t shape up I would be let go.
Fortunately a spark of self preservation ignited inside of me and I realized that I finally had everything I wanted- I was free from my parent’s strict rules, I could make all of my own decisions, and yet every choice I made was actually bringing me down!
I had to make a change and I had to make it fast.
From that point on I went to every single class. All homework was done to the best of my ability. When I got something wrong on a test I went back to find out what the correct answer was and learned from my mistakes. I went from being on probation to getting straight As.
Mind you my major was in costume design, so we aren’t talking heavy calculus or anything. But the idea that my life was my own and I was in charge of my decisions was a revelation. This started me on the track of growing and strengthening my willpower. I started to read about self discipline and how scientists could actually do experiments to figure out why some people were successful and others not so much. Turns out the answer is willpower.
For twenty years I have been making goals, writing them down, figuring out a plan on how to achieve them, creating a willPOWER plan, and then following through on working on my goals every single day.
I feel as if my blog, The Glamorous Housewife, is a testament to self discipline. I started the blog with the idea of turning myself into a creative and inspirational homemaker, and here we are almost 7 years later and I feel as if I am truly a glamorous housewife!
Now I want to teach you how you can do the same thing! And it all starts and ends with willpower.
As a matter of fact, I am going to teach you one thing from my book right now! I consider it to be one of the most important aspects of willpower, and that is writing down your goals.
Write Down Your Goals
A study was done where participants were broken into five groups.
- The first group was to simply think of their goals.
- The second group was to write down their goals.
- The third group was to write down their goals and create an action plan.
- The fourth group was to write down their goals, create an action plan, and send this information to a supportive friend.
- The fifth group was to write down their goals, create an action plan, send the information to a supportive friend, and to follow up with a weekly summary on achieving their goals.
Can you guess which group did the best?
That’s right, group 5.
And the worst? Group 1.
Every single group did better than group 1, and that is due to writing down their goals.
I want you to try something.
Tonight when the kids are all in bed, and you would normally be zoned out on the couch watching tv or surfing the internet, I want you to sit down with a piece of paper and write down all of your goals. Don’t worry about handwriting or spelling or if it is even legible. Nobody is going to see this but you.
Now search your brain for every goal you might possibly have.
Want to visit the moon? Write it down.
Want to feel comfortable wearing bright red lipstick? Write it down.
Want to get out of debt? Write it down.
Just make sure to be concentrating on goals, not a ‘to-do’ list. Cleaning the bathroom is a chore, not a goal. On the other hand, redecorating the bathroom is a goal.
When you are done I want you to take a long hard look at your list. Did you even know you had so many goals? And now you have them written down. In ink. On paper.
You have now officially done something that the vast majority of people on earth haven’t done, which is write down your goals AND you just made your willpower a little bit stronger.
Now of course it can’t be as easy as just writing down a list of things you want to achieve. The good news is, I have much more to come, so be sure to check back here for the second part of my willpower series, or you can click HERE and sign up for my weekly newsletter. That way you wont miss a single post!
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