Six years ago I shut down my beloved children’s clothing company and became a full time stay at home mother.
Full disclosure: The transition was not easy.
I found myself hopelessly bored to tears, watching way too much television, and not knowing what I was supposed to be doing as a homemaker. Oh sure, I had the basics of cooking, cleaning, and keeping my husband and kids happy, but the devil is in the details.
When I realized I considered working out and going to the grocery store a busy day, I knew something had to change.
There were plenty of “old fashioned” housewives whom I could emulate to try and add some creativity and purpose to my life, but other than Martha Stewart, who was much older than I was, I found there really weren’t any homemakers that I could look up to. I couldn’t think of a single public example of a woman who enjoyed staying at home and taking care of her family.
So I decided to become my own inspiration.
I started The Glamorous Housewife as a way to document my journey into embracing my new role as housewife, mother, and homemaker. I preferred to think of myself as CEO of my family but as a lover of history and as a bit of a wise-ass, I thought “housewife” was the perfect tongue-in-cheek moniker.
Of course I didn’t want to be any old housewife, I wanted to be a glamorous housewife, hence the name of this blog.
Through the years I have learned to love my job as caretaker. I found the pride I was so desperately seeking when I switched from working mom to stay at home mom.
It took a long time to transition, but I found both creativity and contentment in my everyday life.
My favorite parts of being a housewife are being able to be my own boss and to set my own schedule. I don’t like feeling trapped by some else’s timetable, which was difficult for me when I had babies and needed to defer to their sleeping routines. The good news is I am finally out of the baby years and now my time is, more or less, my own.
Of course it is easy for me to know my own satisfaction with homemaking. But I wondered what other housewives, either with or without children, found compelling in their day to day routines. So I put out the question to both Facebook and Instagram, and your responses were both enlightening and inspirational.
One of the top responses on Facebook was…
I totally agree and it seems as if most of you do as well. Though to be completely honest, my favorite answer to the question of why being a homemaker is awesome was…
Though I have never thought of my husband as my boss, I still found this to be hilarious. As far as I am concerned, he is sleeping with the boss, not me!
Many statements were about being there for the kids and watching them grow up. Others were about being able to have time to do the things they really love to do. A great many of you felt the same way I do about loving the freedom to not be restrained by other people’s schedule.
A few of you mentioned things other than a husband and kids. For example, one of you wrote…
I am fortunate to not be in that stage of my life where I need to take care of my parents, but I can see how this could be considered an honor to someone who isn’t as selfish and self centered as I am. *
Even though I adore all things vintage, I am still thrilled to be a modern woman in modern times.
In my opinion, the best thing about feminism is it gave women the choice to be able to work both inside the home and outside of the home.
Prior to the 1960s there were very few options for women and their careers. Now we can work before we have kids, stay at home with them when they are babies, and then get back into the rat race as they get older. Or we can choose to work and never stay home or we can choose to only work at home.
And these aren’t our only choices!
The world is ours and we can chose to live whatever kind of life makes the best sense for ourselves and our families.
Though homemakers and housewives have been given the shaft by the mass media in recent years, I am thrilled that so many of you have found your calling and truly enjoy your profession as the main caretaker of your families. I leave you with someone who is living her dream. I hope you find it as inspiring as I did…
So for those of you who are reading this article, why do you love to be a homemaker?