If you have ever read a single book or article on marriage then you will know “date night” is right up there as the holy grail of keeping your partnership off the rocks. Some experts suggest planning a date night every week. Others are ok with once a month. But they always seem to consist of the same thing: an evening alone with your spouse.
Look, I want to keep my man as happy as the next wife, but let’s face it- I am tired by the time 8:00 at night rolls around! And if the date consists of dinner and a movie, I usually end up taking a bit of a nap about halfway through the show. Not romantic. When you have young kids it can be difficult for both of you to muster up the energy for one another. I figured there had to be a better way.
As I was mulling my date night options I remembered something my husband and I used to love to do when we were dating. We are both morning people so we would walk to a local diner and have a long, leisurely breakfast together. He would read the paper, I would read a magazine, we would discuss our future together, and we really would connect over huevos rancheros.
We tried continuing our breakfasts together when my oldest was born, but it got be more and more difficult and not very leisurely or relaxing. So we stopped.
I realized that I might have my answer. What if instead of date night we changed it to date breakfast? So I hired a babysitter to take my toddler to the park on Saturday morning (my two boys are old enough to stay home by themselves) and my husband and I went out to breakfast.
It was glorious! It was everything I had remembered and more because we were so giddy with excitement with what felt like playing hooky from our lives! We were bright eyed and bushy tailed and able to easily converse without yawning or checking our watches every few minutes to mentally calculate how much sleep we were losing. And the best part was, when we got back and relieved the babysitter, we were relaxed and ready to spend the rest of the day with our kids! It was brilliant!
We managed to have a date morning almost every weekend this past summer. The only reason we have momentarily put it on pause is because one of my sons has soccer every Saturday morning and we want to support him at his games. But as soon as the season is over I look forward to my breakfast dates with my husband!
If you are having a difficult time with date night, why not try date breakfast like I do? Or how about date lunch? There is nothing to say you can only have a date at night? Even if you are a night owl and enjoy your date nights, you might want to shake things up a bit and try something new. And doesn’t eggs Benedict with your partner sound really good right now?