It’s wedding week here on The Glamorous Housewife, and even though my level of expertise is not necessarily weddings, I do have some decor advice for the subject!
With the excitement of dresses, flowers, and honeymoon planning the home can be left on the back burner. That makes sense of course, there’s just so much to do when it comes to weddings. But after the honeymoon, as you and your new husband begin your daily lives together, the task of creating your ideal home begins to unfold before you.
The level of compromise will of course be personal to you and your husband. Some men are more interested in the decor of a home than others. If your husband (or husband to be) is willing to give you free reign of the home’s design and decor… congratulations, you’re living the dream! Some men, however, may have oppositions to brightly painted walls, floral patterns, etc. My husband in particular has a few lines drawn, but will also grab a power tool and help me bring to fruition almost any crazy idea I have. He’s a good, good man. Concession is a vital ingredient in a marriage, and a home should be an enjoyable place for both parties.
The first suggestion I have is so simple it’s almost obvious, but we know that things can get crazy when there’s a wedding involved. No matter how large or small the home, too much stuff can bog you down. Before beginning any plans for home decor, and if possible even before the move, trim the excess. If you and your husband are both bringing an existing household (or apartment) to the table, chances are you both own many of the same things. Donating duplicate items, keeping those in the best condition, will quickly help alleviate some of the pressure.
Sit down and talk about priorities. Are there items that you and your husband own that have more personal value than others? It’s so important to share these thoughts, and to also be open to your partner’s feelings as well. If you can start off on the same page, the whole process will go that much smoother. Bits that you just can’t agree on can be postponed for a later date when you’ve had more time to settle into your new life.
Determine your individual styles, and how that will affect the vision for your home. Most styles of decor can live cohesively in one space when a balanced ratio is met. Larger items, like furniture, stick out more than smaller pieces such as heirlooms or knick-knacks. Consider whether or not painting or refinishing out of place furniture may be a reasonable solution.
Once you’ve decided which of your items are staying and going, focus can be turned to incorporating new items into the home. This is something that should be done as a team. Shopping for the home may be comparable to some men, so starting the search on your own and then taking different options to your husband is a feasible alternative.
This was written by Domestic Design expert, Adrienne Breedlove. Be sure to visit her on her blog, ScribblyDoodles.com