I was watching Oprah’s Lifeclass the other day and the topic was “Dreaming Big”. And it got me thinking, why do we have to “dream big”? What is the definition of a “big dream”? Isn’t being a good person and raising a family enough? Isn’t it ok to be satisfied with enjoying the small moments in life that keep us content? Isn’t it enough to take care of your family and friends? Or can those be defined as big dreams?
I’m not suggesting that if you have big dreams you shouldn’t try to achieve them. I am just pondering the suggestion the we all have to have these huge dreams where our mission in life is to change the world. Isn’t creating and raising decent human beings a big dream? What about supporting our beloved in helping them with their dreams? Can our support of other’s dreams be our dream?
When I was a little girl I knew I was going to be a wife and mother. I remember sitting around in middle school and we all wondered who would be the first to get married and have kids. I was never chosen by the group as the one who was going to be the pioneer in family life, but deep down I knew I would be. And sure enough I was the first in my little clan to have the white wedding and the cute kids.
In college I studied costume design and would practice my Academy Award speeches while showering. But as I was working in the industry I quickly realized that being a costume designer and a mother were mutually exclusive, at least with my personality. I couldn’t be the mother and the designer I wanted to be at the same time. So I chose family over career.
Does this mean I gave up on my big dream? Or does it mean I actually chose my dream? Is being a mother and wife enough of a dream? And if not, why not? I’m not suggesting it is the right choice for everyone. But I have heard from so many women who tell me they wished they could stay at home with their kids but due to financial circumstances they simply can’t afford not to work. Are these women “dreaming big”? Or are they missing their dreams?
Now that I have become a wife and mother, my dreams have more or less been achieved. And it feels good! And I have new dreams that I work on accomplishing. But when push comes to shove, the thing I am most proud of is being a good wife and mother. I am living my big dream, and that is the most exciting thing in the world.
My point in this rambling of words is that we don’t necessarily need to dream big, we just need to figure out our dreams and then work towards them. Our dreams can be as simple as choosing a job where one can surf all day or as complicated as becoming a brain surgeon. I see women living their dreams of making enough money by creating handmade crafts or selling vintage clothing. Though I don’t think Oprah would consider those “big” dreams, I think they are huge. Maybe a better way of putting it is to follow your passion, even if that passion is considered simple. If you follow your passion and make choices that get you closer to that joy then you are living your big dream.
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