Ladies, I have been blogging for a long time. My first post went live June 16th, 2009, but I didn’t really take blogging seriously until August of 2011. I just got back from a blogging conference, and instead of doing the usual recap of how it went, I have decided to dedicate this post to what I have learned from blogging.
It is ok to try new things because nothing is set in stone.
When I first started blogging I was going through a big life change. I wanted to break out of my mundane existence and become someone fabulous. But I kinda felt stupid. I mean who was I to think I could prance around the grocery store in heels and pearls? Would people laugh at me? Would I be a fakey? Even with these concerns and insecurities I still pushed forward because for the first time in a long time I was excited to get up in the morning. And guess what? Nobody laughed. My friends were curious, but also totally supportive. People on street asked me questions about my get-ups, but they were always from a place of interest and kindness. And as thrilling as it was to become the woman I always wanted to be, I knew that if it felt wrong or if I wanted to stop, I could! Trying new things is what keeps me motivated and interested in living a glamorous life.
Inspiration and beauty can be found just about anywhere.
If you look with clear eyes you can find beauty in the most common of places. This was something that I really learned when I started using my Instagram app. Now I am constantly on the search for a beautiful shot, or exciting colors, or attempting to see things in a new way. I go running on most mornings (bwaahhahaa! Ok, maybe not most, but fairly often) and I always take the same route. I swear I can find something to take a photograph of every time I am out and about, and to be honest most of my Instagram photos are from those runs. Not only does looking for inspiring beauty keep my head in a creative mode, it also keeps me from thinking about how much I hate to exercise.
Looking good and feeling good walk hand in hand.
Before I started blogging I took pride in my appearance, but it wasn’t something I really focused on. And there were plenty of days I didn’t feel very good, so I didn’t bother to dress up. Once I started focusing on fashion, I noticed I was happier. I found that if I felt bad but dressed like I felt gorgeous, then I ended up feeling gorgeous! To this day I find putting an outfit together to be a creative outlet, and being creative makes me happy. Why just today I kinda didn’t feel like getting all fancy, and I had every intention of staying in pajamas. But I opened up my pants drawer and there were my beloved bright red capris staring at me so I put them on. Then I remembered a really cute top I hadn’t worn in months and thought it would look cute with the pants. So on went that top. Now that I was all looking good in my wardrobe, I guess I felt the need to put on makeup. And a red lip. And sparkly earrings. And when I was all done I realized I felt so much better than if I had just stayed on pajamas. Plus I got so much more accomplished! So if you are generally feeling bad, then maybe you just need to dress up a little bit more and feel good about your appearance. Because I will bet that if you end up looking good you will also feel good.
Everyone has something to teach you, and it is up to you to learn.
I love blogs. I mean I really love them. I probably read at least 20 a day, if not more. I don’t always comment, but trust me, I am probably reading your blog! The reason I read so many blogs is because I am fascinated with people. What are people doing, creating, wearing, eating, reading, what are they inspired by and how can their inspirations inspire me? I have always believed each person who comes into your life has something to teach you and it is up to you to figure out what lesson they are giving you. Sometimes that lesson is positive. Other times you have to learn through negative interactions. But either way you will learn and grow from your relationships with people. When I read someone’s blog I am learning about that person and they, albeit briefly, are a part of my life. I ask myself what can these people teach me and what lessons am I learning from reading other blogs and most of the time it is something that is making me a better person.
Envy is a double edged sword: it can help motivate you to become stronger, or it can suck out every ounce of creative desire until you are a shell of a person.
Wow. Well, I may have gone a bit far with the whole envy definition, but this is a lesson that I learned the hard way. Look, I am a very competitive person. I will admit, there was a time I really let blogging envy hold me back. I would see other blogs that I thought were inferior to my own and yet they had so many more followers, and sponsors, and likes, and I just didn’t get it. I used to waste a lot of time comparing myself and my blog to my blog envies. But then I heard something at the BlogHer conference I went to last summer, “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle”. And it blew my mindhole. That was exactly what I had been doing! So now I learn from the blogs I admire, but I realize that they have been doing this a lot longer than I have and if I keep working then I too will end up achieving my goals.
You will get better with practice.
When I read my early blog posts I laugh at my poor writing skills and my terrible photos. I can’t say my writing has gotten that much better, but I will say my photos are way prettier than they used to be. Sure I read articles about how to actually use my camera, and I went from using the automatic settings to the manual settings. Now I use a tripod and I have just started actually playing with the light to see if I can get a better shot. All of this knowledge is nothing without the thousands of photos I have taken since starting this blog. I read somewhere that it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert at something. Now I dont have anywhere near 10,000 hours of blogging, then again, I don’t consider myself an expert. But I have had a lot of practice when it comes to writing almost every day and taking a ridiculous amount of photos. And all of the time I spent has given me better abilities. There is no way you could do something every day and not become better, so if you have some kind of goal in mind, practice achieving that goal every day and I assure you, you will accomplish that goal. It might take time, a lot of time, but someday you will be able to check that goal off your list.