Living Your Truth
Do you live your truth? What does “living your truth” even mean? And how do you know if you are living it? These are questions I find myself asking more and more.
Our lives consist of living with the consequences of our actions. Actions come after making decisions. So one can infer that we are our decisions.
In my life that has been true.
Ive always known I would be a wife and mother. In high school occasionally my friends and I would be sitting around the question of who would get married and have kids first would come up. I never volunteered myself but I knew deep down I would be the first. And I was; because I made decisions that led me to the point where I was ready to be married when I met my future husband.
So how did I know at such a young age I would be a wife and mother?
There were a few reasons I believed this to be true.
First of all it was expected of me. I was expected to graduate college, get a job, get married and have kids- in that order. Yes, my parents were a large influence but much of what I felt was expected came from society at large.
That isn’t to say I felt forced to be a wife and mother. On the contrary. As a women who came of age after the feminist movement I knew I could do and be anything I wanted to be. The thing is I wanted to be a wife and mother! My passions have always been cooking, being a hostess, fashion and being creative.
I used to joke that what I really wanted to be was First Lady a la Jackie Kennedy.
I got out, spent a year at FIDM, unexpectedly got pregnant with my first son, and once he was born I gave up my job and never looked back. I made the choice to live my truth and leave an industry that was sucking the life out of me.
It took me a long time to find my truth even as I was a stay-at-home mother. I mean being at home with the kids is hard! And it can be mind numbingly boring, especially after the excitement of film making and fashion.
I finally felt like I was living my truth. I worked from 9-3 and then was with the kids after 3 and on weekends. I had found my life balance and figured out how to be truly happy.
Even after I had to shut down my company I realized that I was not cut out to be a stay at home 100% of the time with my kids.
From my first post to working on my redesign it has been a source of creativity, joy, comfort, and love. I have met and admired so many women, from Solanah to Jessica, La Petite Mort (my first follower) to Mrs Lilien (who has no idea I even exist), they all have wowed me their intelligence and tenacious passion for living their truths.
I heard a story once about why God (or whomever you believe or don’t believe in) created humans to sleep.
What was the spiritual point?
The Rabbi said it was because when we wake up each morning we have a chance to start each and every day fresh. Each day we make choices and those choices make up who we are. So why not make choices that support your truth, not take away from it. Figure out who you are and what you are passionate about and then make decisions to further explore those passions.
You know you are living your truth when everything in life just seems to click.
You wake up each day excited and at night you think about how much fun the next day will be.
My children are like this, jumping out of bed as soon as their eyes open and dragging their feet when it is time to go to sleep. Children are inherently living their truth and that is why they never want to sleep!
The choices we make are what creates our lives. Figure out your truth and then make decisions to further your goals and passions and you will find yourself living a more inspired life.