The descent into women letting themselves go is a slow, and often unconscious decision made by women over the course of many years. I know this because it happened to me!
One morning, a few years ago, I woke up, got out of bed, and took a good hard look at myself.
It was like a different person was staring right back at me.
I had gained over 20 pounds, my hair hadn’t been styled in months, and I couldn’t even remember the last time I had bothered to put on any makeup.
I had become a walking stereotype of a woman who had let herself go.
I have been interested in fashion since I was old enough to understand what playing dress-up was. I was always putting outfits together and making dresses for my Barbies and getting into my mother’s makeup. I NEVER thought I would ever stop wearing makeup or gain weight or swap tennis shoes for my beloved heels.
But then I had a baby. And then I had another baby. And then I gained 20+ pounds. And then I started a company and ‘didn’t’ have time. And ever so slowly I lost my way.
I am sure you have all heard the story of a frog that jumps into a boiling pot of water and then jumps out because the water is too hot, but is then placed in a pot of cold water with the burner on low and the frog doesn’t notice the subtle temperature changes and ends up boiling to death.
Well that my friends is how you end up letting yourself go.
It isn’t one drastic step where one day you are glamorous and amazing and the next day you are in tattered leggings and an old high school sweatshirt. No, the decent comes from tiny little decisions made each and every day.
It started when I got pregnant with my firstborn. My body changed drastically after I had him and it took me forever to figure out how to stylishly dress my new, softer, curvier shape. As soon as I thought I had it all figured out, I got pregnant with my second son and my body changed again.
Now I had two children under the age of three. What was the point in dressing up? I spent my days at the park getting dirty, not traipsing down a fashion runway. Who cared if I put on makeup, certainly not my kids! Honestly the only thing that I thought of when deciding what to wear was how upset I would be if it got stained from spit up or from grass stains.
But after a few years, the boys grew up. Now they were older and even though we still went to the park, I could relax on the benches and let them play. My life had changed, but not my wardrobe. It was like I had forgotten how to dress. It seemed as if I had let my love for fashion disappear along with my flat belly and nights out on the town.
But then I saw myself in the mirror and for the first time in years I realized it was time to find myself again. I had let myself become something that I didn’t like, and I needed to do something about it.
So I decided to loose the extra 20 pounds that I had gained. It took me 7 months, but I did it. I did it because every day I made the choice to work out, and eat less.
And it sucked.
You see, it is easy to choose to lay on the couch and watch tv, it is easy to choose to eat a bowl of ice cream, and it is easy to choose to drink a few glasses of wine every night. But it is hard to make the choice to eat less, and sweat, and get off the couch. So most people choose easy. But you know what? Easy is what lets ourselves go.
I have read a lot about Dita Von Teese. What I find most admirable about her is she makes the decision every day to put on makeup and a gorgeous dress. Have you seen the outfits she wears when she travels? They are stunning. But if you look closer, they are also just a more glamorous version of something comfortable- like a 1940’s rayon dress, or a nice coat and purse. Her hair is often pulled back into a chic chignon- something that can be done in 2 minutes. Heck, just having nice nails is something to be cherished. All these things are choices made by Dita in order for her to feel good about herself. And you can make the same choices.
You can change the downward spiral at any time. All you have to do is choose to change. And this decision will be as if you suddenly realized you were swimming in a pot of boiling water! You can choose to work out and loose those pounds you gained. You can choose to buy a pretty new dress, even if you still feel fat and all you want to do is hide under the covers. You can choose to set your hair in curlers and wear lipstick. It all comes down to choices.
So every day I get up and choose to either go to the gym or not to go to the gym. But I know that whatever I choose, it will have consequences. If I choose to go to the gym I will feel better and look better. If I choose to take the day off then I might choose not to have a sweet later that day. So just as the downward spiral of schlump is based on little choices, so too is the ascent into becoming a glamorous housewife.
I started this blog with the intention of inspiring other women to turn their choices from the mundane to the glamorous. I wanted to show you ladies that if I can do it, anyone can do it. So go out there and choose to be glamorous.
If you feel like you need a bit more help in how to actually change, I wrote a book called WillPOWER: Become an expert at being AWESOME! In it I detail all of the steps I took to go from frump to fabulous and turn my life around.
I truly believe that the key to living the life of your dreams, which for me was becoming a glamorous housewife, meant growing and strengthening my willpower.
For more on how to become a glamorous housewife, check out these posts…
- From Bored Housewife To The Glamorous Housewife
- How To Be An Interesting Woman: Appearance
- How To Live An Inspired Life