Are you the person that everyone asks to help them on projects because they know you will always say yes? Do your kids know they can get anything they want because you are a people pleaser and will always agree to their demands? On the flip side, are you someone whose first response is “no”? Is it difficult for you to go with the flow or turn on a dime because you are so set in your ways that not wanting to do something is your default? If either of these scenarios sound like you, then for a week I want you to try and do the opposite of what you normally would choose.
I am a just say no kind of girl. If my husband comes to me unexpectedly with a new idea, my first instinct is to say no. The kids want something? No way. Of course after I say no I then give it some thought, and most of the time the idea is a good one or the thing the kid wants is fine for them to have and I change my mind. This is not a good thing. First of all it makes me look wishy-washy, like I can’t make up my mind. Secondly I hate it when I am ‘mean’ just because that is my instinct. So I have been actively trying to not say anything at all until I have given whatever situation I am faced with some thought. Because this goes against my nature, it is not easy. Often times I can hear the word ‘no’ coming out of my mouth and I quickly say, “oops, sorry. Let me give it a moment to think about your request and get back to you”.
Saying yes all the time can also be problematic. When you say yes to things you really don’t want to do you become resentful. You end up pleasing everyone but yourself. Take a minute to look deep inside and figure out if you are either a yes or no person. Then spend the week going against your nature and see what happens. You just might find that making decisions out of intention is better than just saying yes or no out of habit.